Sunday, February 3, 2013

Having a Baby in Russia

A new friend here from the States will be having a baby on a couple of weeks. I asked her what that will look like. She said that you have to go a special clinic to have babies. There are three levels of service - regular (one room for mom and baby), VIP (One room for mom and one room for baby), and super VIP (one room for mom, one for baby, and one for dad). If you have a natural birth, expect to spend 3-5 days in the hospital. If you have a c-section, expect to spend 5-7 days.

They will not induce babies here to accomodate schedules or personal preferences such as the case in the U.S. When you factor in having to call and wait for a driver/taxi to come pick you up once you start going into labor and then the commute (in traffic most likely) to the hospital... that sounds stressful to me. Alison noted that it takes almost an hour to get from her apartment to the hospital. She said once you get arrive, there are a few unique steps. First, they take moms to a room and shave them - completely - below the waist. Next they go to another room to have an enema. And then, they go to a room to have the baby. And, of note, babies born in Russia do not get Russian citizenship unless their parents are Russian.

I asked my driver about the process of having a baby as a Russian citizen. He said that women can stay on maternity leave for up to 2.5 years at 30-50% salary. They can go back to work sooner if they want, but can't be fired or refused pay within that time frame. Additionally, the government gives them the equivalent of coupons that can be exchanged for all the baby formula needed at special stores. New parents are also given a one time cash sum of about $3000 to cover expenses for the baby. Given slow population growth rate, the government gives an increasingly higher stipend for each additional child. And, a couple has five children, the government will give them a new apartment. All medical care is free for Russian citizens. It costs nothing to have a baby (in terms of medical fees). And if a Russian child gets sick, the parents just pick up the phone and call the doctor - who comes to the house to see the patient. All this, and Russians are only taxed at 13%. Sure, the medical care may not always be up to western standards, but nevertheless, I find it pretty impressive.

Another Day

I've dubbed Moscow weather like a snowy, darker version of Seattle. Little piddly snow all the time. It's getting light now just after 9am which is nice. Both kids r good- healthy. I take Wylie to a Russian clinic tmrw for his 4 month shots- at clinic supported by Jake's work. I have a doctors appt the following afternoon with an American doctor at the American clinic. I will feel more comfortable with an American doctor in case there's an emergency or serious illness- and willing to pay out of pocket for that. I've heard from a few ex-pat mom's that if ur child gets sick Russian doctors always prescribe saline nose spray. One mom said that her son was diagnosed with bronchitis (respiratory problems are common here due to pollution) and the doctor prescribed physical therapy. What?

Met two American couples at a basketball game today. Both moms in a toddler group. There was some ticket confusion and this Russian woman was really rude indicating we could not sit in the empty seats next to her (which remained empty all game). I showed her the tickets, she looked really annoyed, and pointed to the seats on the other side of her and then acted like we didn't exist. I raised my eyebrows and mouthed "wow - sorry!" Everyone shrugged her off. They looked at me and said I would start to get used to it while noting she really wasn't that bad- just wait.. Great!

On the way home the driver told me a story about how he and his wife got in a fight yesterday. He apparently stumbled and someone his daughters finger was injured. His wife came over and punched him in the face. He said he hit her back in the face but "not hard" and she hit him about five more times in the face - at which point, he just took the blows. Presumably his daughter was standing there given he lives in a one bedroom apartment. He said he got very sick shortly after and was in the bathroom throwing up for an hour.. He suspected he had either drank too much wine or it was bad... How do u respond to that kind of story? I was speechless and finally noted that I hoped he felt better today as I got out of the car..